Having credit card maxed behind your back by the woman I m going to marry?

So recently my misses came out with something she had recently done. We have an emergency credit card with a £6000. Within the last 2 months or so spent nearly all but cleared it to 0. Happy days. She kept the credit card tucked away for emergency only. What I wasn t aware was that she was making her own purchases? House and things for the boys? But nothing making £6000 i can actually put my finger on around the house? To cut a long story short, without me knowing with MY credit card, she maxed it. Didn t tell me. Hypocritically told me I can t use my own card when I needed it for dentist, fuel etc, lied to my face. Now we are back in the **** and it s all on her fault. I work hard for everything we have and I feel stabbed in the back, lied too, broken trust, confusion about what I m supposed to do next. I m supposed to be marrying this girl? How can I marry someone who s done this? She s apologised and says she s disgusted in what she s done but I m on the fence at the moment. Inside I want to feel so mad but for some reason I m really calm about it, although right or wrong I don t want to show her that. I m not going out my way to make her feel bad either. I guess I m just shocked? Never thought she would do anything like this? She s dug us a big hole that we only just worked to get out of. She s only a part time teacher, I work for our mortgage, bills, food, boys etc. I feel hurt and let down. How do I approach this? Where would she stand if you were in my shoes? £6000!

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