Military divorce in Tennessee?

My girlfriend's husband is overseas for military purposes and is refusing to cooperate with us like an adult. We spoke with several lawyers, and he should be able to just sign the divorce papers like a grown-up and we can all move on with our lives. Has it in his head and come home in a few months, and work things out with my girl, and avoid being divorced. She's had several long conversations with him and she just wants to move on. According to him, there's some special Clause but he doesn't have to cooperate, because he's in the military. However, we have done a lot of research ourselves, I spoke to a few attorneys, and he should just cooperate. Further comma he's refusing to use his housing allowance to pay their mortgage, which I have been covering for the last few months. I get that he's mad that I live there now, but again, everyone is being an adult except for him.

Additionally, it's making it very hard for my girl's soon who is obviously confused and scared. The guy refuses to talk to me like an adult, and it seems as though my girl can't reason with him. I'm not sure what the best step would be. Should we contact somebody he works with in the military such as a supervisor?

We seriously just want to move on so he can come home pack his stuff and move out.

You have no idea how unreasonable he's being and how difficult he's making the song his soon-to-be ex-wife's life and his child's life. Is there anything the military could do to make him sign the papers?

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