I want to move into a house right away, no renting of apartments in between my parents place and a house of my own. I think renting is a waste. I don't want to commit to hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of mortgage debt with someone before I'm committed to that person or they're fully committed to me, meaning I want to be married (or at least engaged) before I sign my name on a mortgage with my significant other. I see marriage before house as a requirement.
He doesn't see it this way and thinks its weird to be married and not yet living together, which is why I'm comfortable with at least being engaged before moving into a house together.
When I've since asked about when we're getting married, he tells me it will be after we buy a house and are financially stable. We've looked over our financial situation for when we do get a house, and we're not left with much afterwards, maybe a couple hundred dollars at the end of the month.
I'm also concerned because I want to put more money away in case something happens to the car and we need emergency money. We'll probably both have some extra money that were not going to be putting down on the house that we could use for emergency fund money.
But at this rate we obviously won't be financially stable enough to get married for at least a few years after we buy the house.
I still don't feel comfortable about this situation, and think that marriage before the house is a requirement. How do I let him know, again, how I feel?
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