My partner Matt builds furnaces. Last summer he went to Northampton for 10 days and it was awful, we were living with my parents at the time saving for a mortgage so that made it easier having them. Last Christmas 27th - 30th December he went to Wales to work and that was just as hard because it was 'family time' and our anniversary is also 27th.
March this year he found out the company was off to Malaysia to build some brand new furnaces from the ground up and he was told although it is a 4 month job and the other lads would be staying out there but he was needed at the yard so would only be there 2 weeks. We bought a house and moved in on the 6th June, I found out I was pregnant on the 6th July, on the 7th he found out he was going on the 4th September. On Monday the 1st of September he came home from work and told me his boss had told him THAT day, he would be going for 2 months.
My 20 week scan is booked for the 22nd October, and we will find out if it's a boy or a girl:) Matts flight is also booked for the 22nd (if he doesn't have to stay longer) so he wont be there, I have tried to change the date but got nowhere over the phone.
We got a beautiful Saint Bernard puppy 3 weeks ago and she is keeping me busy, but its not the same. I am so lonely without him and with the time difference its hard to speak to him.
How do people cope? I could have dealt with the 2 weeks but 2 months is too much. I don't know what to do with myself and it's only been 6 days.
Added (1). I understand about the forces, my dad was in the army and now has one-and-a-bit arms.
I don't get upset on the phone I try and talk about happy things and I don't cry or get upset because it wouldn't be fair on him.
I might sound selfish but I have spent every day with him for nearly 4 years and I just wanted some advice. But thank you.
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