When to be concered about dinking alcohol?

I'm in my 30's married with a child, working full time and we have a mortgage.
Yet my husband thinks i drink too much. Back in the day i was late starter and didn't socialize in pubs until i was 19yrs. But i don't i think i missed out but i do drink more now than then. Yet my husband was a heavy drinker bk then… Passing out being sick really angry drunk… Still can be but he rarely drinks now, but when he does his behavior and words are hurtful but i know its the drink… And in the morning he won't remember. Me now i can drink without falling over or having embarrassing conversations, yet i am under the microscope… Helpful suggestions welcomed

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