Why do people say life is what you make it?

I wanted to marry my girlfriend but she left me for someone else. I wanted to be a professional footballer but i got rejected without even getting a trial. So i decided to do a university course in psychology but i couldn't afford it. I wanted a new car but i got turned down for a loan. I wanted to buy a house but i got turned down for a mortgage. Now i am stuck in a boring low paid job that i hate and i live in a tiny bedsit because i can't afford to rent anything better. My life is decided by other people and i have no control over it. I will be glad when it ends.

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